Valentine’s Day is only two days away! This is the day we get to express our love for others.
So how do you show your love? Do you buy heart shaped boxes of chocolate or send flowers? We can show our love through the gifts we give on special days, but the best way to show love is through the small things done on a daily basis.
I have had the privilege of witnessing the unconditional love of a mother for her son over the past 12 years. Being the mother of a son with special needs is a difficult task. It requires self-sacrifice. My wife has sacrificed her own desires and ambitions for our son. She struggled through years of giving of herself for him with little or no appreciation shown from him in return. Even now that he is 12 years old he does not always show affection without being prompted.
She has spent hundreds of hours with him in doctors offices and with therapists. She has listened to experts say what he will never be able to do, then strives to help him prove them wrong. She sees his strengths and helps him maximize those.
A few years ago we decided homeschooling would be best for him, so we pulled him out of school and she began homeschooling him. It is just the two of them every day. Like most children, he would much rather play than work so her days are long and, often, lonely. She willingly tackles this every day because it is best for our son. She researches homeschooling techniques that will enhance his learning. She spends time researching autism and ways to improve his social skills. Our son’s expressive language is better because she has worked diligently with him on this skill. She has had sleepless nights worrying about his future and whether or not she is doing enough to help him make it in the world. It is evident to me that her work is paying off.
As I reflect on how best to love someone, I do so with the example my wife shows our son daily. John 15:13 says, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friend.” For the past twelve years, Robyn has laid down her life for our son and he is becoming a fine young man because of her sacrifices. He is truly blessed to have her as his mother.
This Valentine’s post is dedicated to my wife and I close with one of her favorite passages of scripture.
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Robyn, thank you for your love and your example of unconditional love for our son.